Family is forever

I'm going to start this by saying what I have said to others for years now: Just because you bring a child into this world, it doesn't mean they owe you anything. Respect is EARNED.

 I think most people with chronic pain know well enough how frustrating it is when people don't believe you're sick. I also think most would agree that it's even harder when it's family members reacting like that. And even more would agree its torture when it's your in-laws.

It's not new to know that my fiance's mother has made comments about my illness. She said shit about when I had to quit school, and she likes to tell people how I'm not disabled. I'm actually faking the whole thing to mooch off my fiance.

About 5 months ago or so, we had a huge falling out with his mom, as is evident here. She refused to accept it when he told her was done with her, and we ignored it. Until now. Ash sent her an email response to her asking about Christmas restating that until she owned up to what she had done, and tried to make amends with both of us, he was not going to see her.

He also added in that he was very upset about her telling everyone that I'm not actually sick, and that the back talking, specifically to his siblings, about me needs to STOP.

I thought for sure she was going to respond by flipping out on me. Oh boy was I wrong. The email she sent back was cruel, disgusting, and heartless. I'm not going to share the whole email, but I do want you guys to have a gander at how she began the email:

"I believe you have this backwards. You have been in trouble since you were in pre-school. You have disrupted this family, my marriage, and my life. Your actions were MAJOR problems not a casual remark. At no point had you ever apologized for your behavior. But you are my son and I forgave you."

I think it's this paragraph that makes me the angriest. How dare she? She then goes on to tell how she is so sick, and hurts all the time, but she still goes to work to support the family (that one was obviously meant for me), and how I'm going to be so much work to talk care of the older we get.

His brother sent her his own email telling her that he was sickened by the email she sent to Ash, and that he couldn't be around this negativity.

And she again spent a good portion talking about how horrible my fiance has been throughout his life.


I. am. LIVID.